Girl Unexpected

The internet and the blog world can be so very connective.

E.wadford — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 19:01:40 +0000

It can also be quite intimidating at times. I think I have felt such an ebb and flow with the online world. There are times where it all feels “too much” and that I am not quite enough in that sea of “muchness”. There are times where I loathe technology. There are times where I want to shut the computer down, throw the TV outside and smash it to pieces, chuck cell phones out the windows of moving vehicles and then travel to a remote location where no one can reach me or my husband or my family…and we can live in total peace with nothing but nature. There are times…and then I realize how extreme that really is. I think one reason I start to get overwhelmed with it all is how easy it can seem that other people have it all together. “They” have the most beautiful web sites and all of their photographs are amazing. “They” have it all in perfect balance and abundance. “They” get to travel the world or they sew with the greatest of ease or they write all these amazing books. All it takes is one line of connection for me to remember that “they” are people, just like me…with struggles and challenges and doubts and insecurities and 24 hours to each day. But, they tell their stories because they need to be told. Last week I decided that instead of taking pictures and wishing that I had the time to edit through them before I shared…that I would just share them anyway, flaws and all. I don’t have the time but I do have the pictures. So, the beginning of me just “posting anyway” has begun. I also don’t have the time to draft up a beautiful post with words strung together neatly and in harmony with exactly what I may be feeling/thinking/living at the time. No, I don’t have the time, but I have the life. So, the beginning of me just “writing anyway” has begun. It is a way of me getting on, getting it out, stepping further into myself. I like the connection that comes with that. I like the connection of sharing life with others who get it and don’t have the time but who do it anyway. I created this space so that I would have a freedom in sharing and a freedom in exploring and a freedom in documenting my life during this time. I might not have the words as I move through this. I know I won’t have the time. I can assume that my photos will be less than perfect. But, it is time to do it anyway.

Protected: So hard

E.wadford — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 16:29:55 +0000

My little man is growing up

E.wadford — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:09:02 +0000

Wow, so Connor starts kindergarten tomorrow. We are doing virtual school with Connections Academy. I just can’t believe that the time is here. My little man is getting so big. It seems like only yesterday I was bringing him home from the hospital.

We are home schooling cause lord knows I would not subject my child to Harleyville-Ridgeville elementary or any other schools in the Charleston area’s. It is bad enough that SC is dead last when it come to education. Although we are doing a public school we are doing it from home therefore I can add my own twist to the teachings. I have already got some very fun ideas to incorporate into his school work.

We are excited. First day is tomorrow.

Not a Fan

E.wadford — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 19:18:01 +0000

I am not a fan of organized religion. Spirituality, faith, belief in a higher power—that’s all good. But when it’s institutionalized it all turns to shit as far as I’m concerned. It seems to me that the origins of the major religions were more about power and control than communing with our creator and attempting to be more at one with him/her/it/them. I tend to think that organized religion frequently causes more problems than it solves. It fosters and us versus them atmosphere that is used to justify the most horrific things humankind has ever seen as well as causing pain on a daily basis to anyone who is outside the imaginary perimeters the institution sets.

I was speaking with someone the other day. They were telling me about a sermon that they had at their church. The preacher was talking about destiny and saying that our destiny’s are mapped out, but that we have choice’s to make with in that mapped out destiny and they can be good choice’s or bad ones. I disagree. If your destiny is already mapped out than you really don’t have a choice at all. For example if your destiny is mapped out for you than when you come to a fork in the road and choose to go to the right, then that is they way you were suppose to go according to your destiny so did you really make that choice. If your destiny is mapped out for you than you have no responsibility for your own life and actions. Something goes wrong in your life than you can put the blame on some higher power.

I disagree with the saying that our destiny is mapped out for us. I believe we make our own destiny. I believe we are all responsible for our own lives.

What I know now….

E.wadford — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 19:12:51 +0000

just some advise picked up along the way.. lol

Key to a Happy Marriage: Listen to the story, then listen some more, then listen even more. Don’t try to offer brainy solutions. Occasionally state in a quiet, respectful tone the words, “Yes, Dear”.
You are what you eat. Read about nutrition – certain foods agree with you, others don’t. Experiment with your own body chemistry.
The French have an aphorism that you don’t appreciate something until you don’t have it anymore. In 40 years from now what is it that you will regret not having accomplished, appreciated or attempted? Do it, appreciate it, attempt it NOW!
The greatest “adventure” is the ability to INQUIRE, TO ASK QUESTIONS. Sometimes in the process of inquiry, the search is more significant than the answers. Answers come from other people, from the universe of knowledge and history, and from the intuition and deep wisdom inside yourself.
Physical exercise is important at any age to reduce stress and optimize well being. Include the full range of cardiovascular, muscle building and stretching –yoga. Join a health club with a swimming pool. When you can’t get to the health club, take 30 minute brisk walks, breathe and be in the moment.
Life gives and takes away. During difficult times, be committed to resolving problems, but also lighten up and ride the waves of impermanence. What is a monster problem today will be a forgotten thought in the future.
Achievements are the result of preparation.
Supporting, guiding, and making contributions to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. In order to get, you have to give.
Time is of the essence. You are born and you will die. Don’t waste the time in between. Use a time management system to control events, rather than have events controlling you.
Shakespeare’s character Hamlet tells us that “nothing is good or bad as thinking makes it so”. As a problem solver, or at any point to gain clarity with your own mind and emotional state, try this inquiry from the author Byron Katie: What is the “story” that is going on in my mind at this moment? Is it true? How do I know that it is true? What is the situation like with this story? What would my life be like at this point without this story?